“I love her honesty!
Who doesn’t want to love and be loved?! Through her own journey, Margot does a great job helping you look within so you can find true joy and love.”

“Like hanging out with a really smart, funny, and wise friend

[...] Margot Schulman’s insights are honestly won—she shares her challenges around relationships with kids and parents and romantic partners. Her courage, warmth, authenticity, tenderness, and vulnerability shine. She is clearly walking her talk.

Because I can be a rather task-oriented person and, heck, life is busy—I really enjoyed the exercises at the back. They gave me a way to check in with my inner experience and offered quick tools to reconnect with the vitality of life—“a few minutes making a list of things that make you happy” turned what would’ve been an arduous bureaucratic wait time into a fun and creative interlude. The tools are simple and can be used almost anywhere and at anytime.

Most importantly, Choose Love gave me the courage to say no to people and commitments that are no longer life-affirming. And I cannot think of a greater gift, because choosing love is really about choosing life.”

“A profoundly useful, easy-to-read gem that delivers as promised!

Compassion radiates from this book and Margot writes with such a warm, inviting tone: I felt welcomed on every page. Her gentle prose makes complex human interactions easy to understand and she skillfully teaches how to identify, navigate and regulate the dynamics that disrupt and derail relationships. Margot also provides stimulating, accessible exercises to help build foundations in yourself and to create structures with others that produce greater connection, stability and joy.

Books about relationship or self-improvement often feel overwhelming; Margot’s approach reassures that small shifts can yield positive change quickly and that you don’t have to be perfect. The book continually affirms that we GET to make these efforts because this work is freeing and ultimately creates more fun and goodness us and everyone else.

Increasingly, “self-love” (and one’s relationship with oneself) is proclaimed as essential to thriving, but it’s hard to find solid guidance on how to DO that besides, “Me-time”, “Say ‘no’ more often” and affirmations. Most of us were never taught how to love ourselves or what that even means. Margot uses clear examples, plain instruction and useful practices to make self-love (and the pursuit of pleasure!) a relevant, potent force that nourishes you and those around you.

This book holds life-affirming work that we all deserve to access; it’s not a stretch to say that if every person did what is in this book, we would have a much more delightful and peaceful planet. So, get this now! Read with ease, gain insights into yourself, build vital skills and weave greater happiness into your relationships and your life.”